WTF Is This About?

Discovering my parner’s porn use, left me feeling insecure, anxious, and questioning myself and the relationship. I felt inadequate to the pornstars and I felt like it was because I wasn’t attractive or sexy enough. It ate away at my self-esteem and I hated my body. No matter how many times I cried telling him how it felt like cheating, he couldn’t understand my perspective but said he’d stop, only to find out months later he was still using it. It felt like this cycle never ended.

I constantly thought “What else is he hiding?”, “Can I trust him?”, “Why isn’t my body enough? Why does he need to look at other girls?”, “Can I stay in this relationship forever… What if this never ends?”, “He’s my BEST FRIEND and we live together… what if I never find someone better?”, “He treats me SO well and everyone loves him... maybe I should just ignore his porn use?”

While I was in the relationship, I (thankfully) started my empowerment and transformation journey. I started doing the “inner healing work”, therapy, coaching, mindfulness, self-love, nervous system regulation, etc.

Because this is what saved my life when I discovered his porn “habit” was a porn addiction that escalated to a sex addiction. He was even getting hotel rooms with pornstars and cheating on me with countless girls our entire relationship. I was seconds away from taking my life the night I caught him. My empowerment tools are what stopped me. I moved out the next day.

The following months were the worst f*cking months of my life. I didn’t know any girl who had experienced it and I felt like it was all my fault. None of my friends could relate and they’d say “He’s a piece of shit.. you’re better off without him” but I still loved him and missed our relationship. It made me feel guilty for missing him, but at the same time I had so much anger and confusion about what happened. How didn’t I know he had these addictions? We lived together. How can I ever trust myself again? How can I ever trust a man again? How can I ever love myself, my body? How can I ever start dating again?

All my friends were dating, engaged, or married and I felt like I was “behind” in life. I realized I was the only one who could save me. So I went on a deep healing journey to become the coach I desperately needed. Day by day I rebuilt my life, obsessively researched the porn addiction epidemic, learned new tools, tried new experiences, read books & podcasts to educate myself on Betrayal Trauma, enrolled in Women’s Empowerment Life Coaching & Trauma-informed Life Coaching.

Fast forward to one year after finding out and I LOVE the new life I created. I would NEVER want to go back to my old life. It feels so small compared to the new woman I have grown into. I even built the courage to travel South East Asia alone for three months, and now I’m moving to Australia alone (WHAT?! I would have NEVER had this empowerment before!). I feel fearless, unstoppable, powerful, and excited every damn day.

Now I have over 380+ hours of certifications in Women’s Empowerment, Advanced Trauma Relationship, Trauma-informed Breathwork, Mindfulness & Meditation. Together, we’ll work through self-limiting beliefs, fear, inner criticism, and replace them with power, confidence, resilience, self-worth, and self-love using healing, empowerment, and mindfulness modalities from my 380+ hours of certifications.  I'll teach you everything I learned on my healing journey so you can do it quicker, cheaper, and not alone!

Whether you’re still in your relationship or you left, we will empower you to be the f*cking warrior you were meant to be. I won’t tell you if you should leave or stay in your relationship, but we’ll empower you to do the right thing for YOU. YOU ARE MORE POWERFUL THAN YOU THINK.